Learning to Say No.
Holding strong with your boundaries and saying “no” is not about being tough because the world is against you.
And you don’t have to feel like you’re disappointing people when you decide to say no. We’re going to change that here and now!
The choice is not “Will they have to deal with the consequences?” or “Will I have to deal with the consequences?”.
Because we all know, that we’re probably going to sacrifice ourselves and deal with those consequences than put someone else through anyhardship.
This is how we’re going to flip it and make it easier to say no:
Saying yes or no, is now a filtering system, rather than a dead-end wall.
You’re filtering the experiences you take part in, so that the ones you do commit to, genuinely contribute to the vision of yourself.
Your boundaries are the guardianship of future you.
So you’re no longer just protecting yourself (which in the past you think is strong enough to cope), you’re not protecting Future You as well!
And let’s be honest Future You is defenseless without your support.
There are probably people around you that will protect you and look out for you, but I would bet there’s almost no one that is thinking about Future You.
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By shifting to this mindset, it means that the actions that you wish you’d committed to yesterday, are now being committed to – before it’s too late!!
So here’s what you’re going to do now:
1) Decide your boundaries.
Become clear on what you need to put in place to protect what’s important to you (which means you also need to know what’s important to you!).
2) Label it.
Find yourself in a situation that conflicts one or many of your boundaries? Recognise the moment!
Say it to yourself and be aware that this is when you’ve let your future self down in the past.
3) Visualise Future You.
Remind yourself of Future You. How do they live? How do they act? What do they need from Present You?
Keep this vision of your future really clear so that you’re more emotionally driven to protect your enforce your boundaries.
4) Embrace the consequences.
Say no and enjoy the outcome.
The cost of saying no to Future You?? A lot!
The cost of saying no to someone else?? Possibly a little bit in the moment, but within a few hours, it’s probably all blown over!
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REMEMBER! You’re only going to learn by experimenting and trialing it out. There isn’t going to be any change without making an actual change and doing things a little bit differently.
So try these 4 steps, and recognise this action as one of your strongest form of self-care for your mental, emotional, and physical health.
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